I like to believe I’m a pretty laid back person, actually I know I am . Which means I can pretty much befriend and gel with ANYBODY. Growing up I was always friends with such a diverse group of people. And it was always a issue for me, I learned pretty quickly that your friend groups aren’t going to always mesh well and it’s sometimes better to keep them separate to avoid all the drama. However the older I get and the more refined and polished I become , I’ve noticed that certain types of people I can no longer mesh with. I hate to judge people off first impressions and the way they carry themselves but I DO. IM all about first impressions, but I’m also a nice dummy who trys to befriend everyone and make everyone feel included. I often ignore the warning signs telling me this person is not for me and it’s gonna end bad, mostly because the voice in my head is my own worst enemy at times and it’s hard to believe her. And because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt no matter how much my gut is telling me not to . I’ve noticed when I hang with those people , I don’t feel like I can be myself and I have to make myself small and keep certain things about me locked away. Out of fear of them thinking I’m stuck up or too liberal or whatever. I lower my frequency to try and match theirs. Then when it all blows up over something stupid (because it always does) I end up feeling drained and like “why did I even waste my time?” I knew deep down this person was not for me but I STILL tried to make it work.
You can absolutely be friends with different types of people, but sometimes there’s people you don’t need to be friends with and you know it. Not that they’re beneath me or anything, it’s just their presence adds no value to my life or well being. I used to not care who I surrounded myself with. Now as I move forward and up with my life, I like to surround myself only with powerful women. Women who aren’t about pettiness and drama, but about their careers and business and being a better person. When you surround yourself with lo-class people with no ambition that’s what you become sooner or later. When you surround yourself with people who work hard and strive for the best, it pushes you to want to be a better person and to work harder.
I’m DONE with people who don’t match my hustle or frequency. They can stay low while I go high!!
AsToldByShanise 