ASHAMED of kpop?

By: Shanise Lachelle

Since I’ve become a multi-Stan of kpop I’ve been living my best life. I’m truly the happiest I’ve been in a really long time, and I love my kpop boys/ girls and will stan/protect them until the end of time.

But what I’ve noticed over the last 7 months or so is how MOST kpop stans feel the need to hide the fact that they stan *insert kpop group*. They have separate social medias for their kpop and get anxious when they post it on their main. They also hide the fact that they’re stans. And I just don’t understand.

Honestly who gives a CRAP. I’m grown and I’m not gonna let anyone make me feel like I can’t like something or shame me for it. Like grow up, it’s 2021. And when kpop stans act ASHAMED of kpop it adds to the stigma that there’s something wrong with liking korean music.

And to younger kpop stans, like your kpop music and don’t let ANYONE bully you for it. It’s literally not that serious. Liking kpop doesn’t make you weird, it just means you have exceptional taste in music.

Let’s stop making liking kpop music something to be ashamed of. You’re adding to the xenophobic problem not helping it. Post about it on your mains, blast it from your car, and talk about them regularly like you do any western popular artist. Kpop/Korean music has some of the most talented artists I’ve seen in a while, let the world know what they’re missing out on. IM A KPOP STAN AND IM PROUD AS PUNCH.

Guess Who Preview

By: Shanise Lachelle

So itzy has released an Album Sampler and I am SO excited. Every single song sounds like a BOP.

In the morning, kidding me and sorry not SORRY!!!!! I THINK ITZY IS GONNA MAKE A FEW POINTS. And they’re truly coming for everyone’s wings.

Just from the promo pictures alone, I knew I was gonna love this era!!! Now after hearing how the songs sound… I just know this will be my favorite comeback from them!!! I’m so excited. I didn’t know what to expect, but I didn’t think they were gonna go this hard. Oof I can’t wait for the videos and the CHOREOGRAPHY!!! bitch you know itzy is about to absolutely kill it. Let’s do this!!!

Favorite Female films

By : Shanise Lachelle

Here are SOME of my favorite badass female lead films. Definitely worth watching this month and getting you in the kickass mood for international women’s month!!

1. Wonder Woman
2. Captain marvel

3. Sucker Punch

4. Birds of prey

5. Oceans 8

6. Moxie
7. Assassination Nation
What’s your favorite feminist film,? Drop me some recommendations down below and I’ll try to watch them all.

Forever Reaction

By: Shanise Lachelle

Forever is the Newest promotional single from my girls Aespa. Now when I saw the promo pictures last week, I knew it would be soft. And then I saw the snippet and I still had hopes for a full out choreography video .

But it’s just what it looked like and perhaps something we all needed. It’s a soft , warm, and romantic love song that I can see playing on kdramas in the future.

EVERY girl has her vocal moment to shine. Proving that Aespa may be coming for every girlgroups neck, I’ve yet to see a girlgroup(kpop wise) WHERE EVERYONE can actually sing, if need be.

They said black mamba we showed you all we can dance, now with forever we’re gonna give you vocals bitch!!

They look so GORGEOUS and sound amazing, and miss ningning with that high note, that’s my girl!! AFCOURSE it’s not what I expected, but I read somewhere this is just a promo single, and the actual comeback will be coming soon. They still all sounded great and it’s such a cute song you don’t realize the video is over 5 mins long.

Aespa is really setting themselves up to be THAT ROOKIE GROUP.

Big Changes Coming💗

I’ve found it Mostly difficult to find new and interesting things to post about when all I really care about is harry styles, kpop, little mix , girlgroups and Halloween. So I’ll stick to what I know and what makes me happiest, instead of trying to be like every blogger and blog about EVERY SINGLE THING HAPPENING IN HOLLYWOOD. It’s too exhausting and it made me fall out of love with writing. So here I go, I hope you all stay around and we gain even more ASTOLDBYSHANISE friends along the way.

Jesy has quit little mix!

By : Shanise Lachelle

I’ve waited a bit to write about this, as my heart is broken. Broken for PERRIE, jade and leigh, broken for mixers but most importantly broken for jesy!! Her dream and passion has been ripped from her , because of cruel and disgusting human beings who thought it was their job to tear this gorgeous confident women down. Jesy LOVED being in little mix and owned the stage EVERY time she stepped on it. I’m so sad she couldn’t just ignore the hate and comments. But I understand her leaving and her mental health is more important!! I’m glad she decided to leave and not the other option ( knowing from her documentary she already tried that). I can’t say I didn’t see this coming. Jesy has been absent from social media and little mix since holiday released ,in my opinion. She became more and more distant and you could just tell. The last few years you can watch interviews and just watch her light die out. The only time recently I’ve seen her glowing, was when her documentary was released and she was getting praise for it. Other than that I could see being in little mix wasn’t fun for her anymore. And as much as it sucks she’s leaving, I’d rather her leave and be happy then be depressed. I am also worried about PERRIE , jade and leigh!! I hope they are healing and doing okay. Although I feel like this decision has been made for a while and we’re just finding out about it.

I will continue to support jesy in whatever she does and hope she can return to music when she’s ready. She has too much talent to let the bullies win. I will also support the other 3 girls best I can . They will need us now more than ever.

Sidenote: I really honestly think the” mixers” bullying jesy about her tanning and accusing her of blackfishing was the final straw. There was no need for it and was a bit overboard!!! As a black CHOCOLATE stan, I didn’t find her tanning offensive at all and knew she did it to make herself feel good. There was just no need for all the hate she got from her own fans before leaving. I hope those toxic mixers know they’re part of the problem. You can’t educate someone on tanning!! Most white girls tan to be darker and I’ve never seen this much uproar about it except within the little mix fandom.

As a whole , I hope this fandom wakes up and realized they do the absolute most for the wrong reasons. Put that energy into streaming their music. Not hating on what they choose to do with THEIR BODY!!!

Jesy we love you girl and we got you!!! You will always be apart of little mix!!!

If you love Asian Culture, you have to love Asian People as well…

By: Shanise Lachelle

Now I’ll be the first to say I’m not the slightest bit racist and I was raised to treat everyone fairly. And I think the majority of decent human beings would say the same. But it hasn’t occurred to me until recently how MUCH ignorance and racism occurs towards the Asian Community . I can talk for years about how being black in America and being a Black Woman period, is an everyday struggle and Everytime it feels like you take 1 giant step forward for black people by breaking the “loud, ghetto, stereotypes” you take 1,000 steps back. It’s an ongoing cycle. But what I’ve noticed about the Asian Community, especially this year with (Covid-19) , is that we’ve all been guilty of being a little ignorant, even if we didn’t mean to. We’ve all made fun of the nail shop women, we’ve all said chinese food is rats and bats, and some of us have made fun of the shape of their eyes. And yes all of that is RACIST. Am I racist? No!, Have I done those things? Yes and of course I’m shamed. Because I wouldn’t want anyone to make black jokes and think it’s funny, when it’s not. Why is it okay for us to constantly bash them ,joking or not, but CONSTANTLY TAKE FROM THEIR CULTURE? We wouldn’t have half of the coolest things if it wasn’t for Asian culture. I’m talking chinese food, kung-fu movies, those same amazing nail shop women hooking out nails up, sushi, sailor moon, and some of the most amazing artists in the world .

When covid happened , Everyone became extremely racist against Asians. Because they didn’t want to catch the” chinese virus”. Which in itself is ignorant, because as soon as they found out about it ,they tried to contain it. And not all Asians are chinese . These people started to loose business in their shops and even asian Uber drives couldn’t get work.

It’s also extremely racist and WEIRD to be OBSESSED with asian culture, especially if you’re not ASIAN. You can appreciate the culture without going overboard and being offensive. Meaning ,if you are gonna wear certain symbols, know the actual meaning. Same goes for tattoos, if you don’t know what it really means, don’t get it tattooed. And DON’T befriend or only date someone because they’re asian then proceeded to only talk to them about karate and sushi etc., I can NOT stress enough how offensive that is and RACIST. and will make them highly uncomfortable. Not all Asians like karate or eat sushi, just like not all black people like fried chicken and watermelon.( I HATE watermelon). Just be considerate and be NORMAL. Don’t be creepy.

Before I got into Bts and K-pop, I was one of THOSE people who bashed it . Not ruthlessly, but I didn’t get it. I didn’t understand the hype around the “pasty Asians”, ( trust me I cringe now when I think about it). It wasn’t until I took all the underlining xenophobic thoughts out of my head ,was I able to fully enjoy a whole new genre of music and TALENT. Because oh man, Asian artist’s are just on a whole different level ENTIRELY. But I think that goes for the entire of Asia. They just seem to be living in future. Back to the point , I’m now made fun of for liking Bts and Those “Asians”. And people are constantly telling me they ” DON’T GET IT” and asking me”you really like Asians?”or just recently I said I wouldn’t mind dating an Asian guy/girl and my coworker said” okay where do they hang out at?” , as if they’re entirely a different species. Whether you know it or not, you contribute to xenophobia when you say things like that, even if you don’t necessarily mean it that way. Asians are people too. Hate to break it to you, but they bleed blood, poop out of their bum holes and walk around on like normal people just like Americans. This could also be the reason why alot of them are not fond of foreigners and americans and trust me I get it. But I think americans as a whole need to do better. You are HUMANS first and americans next. You can’t love a entire culture but hate the community it comes from and treat them like shit. ( Much how people hate black people but CONSTANTLY steal from black culture). This is not coming from a korea-boo ( I don’t want to move to korea) , or a weeaboo( I don’t watch anime). This is coming from a human who’s made alot of those same mistakes but has learned from them and grown to love and appreciate the Asian culture. I’m writing this to say, if you love Asian culture, you have to love Asian people as well. You can NOT have one without the other.

Ps. It is not lost on me how the industry treats Asians as well. We rarely get any all asian cast films, or tv shows and the Asian artist’s get treated like crap when they come to America and not taken seriously. And They rarely get nominated for big awards( grammys, oscars). America as a whole is extremely XENOPHOBIC AND THAT NEEDS TO END ASAP!!

Don’t EVER settle

I’ve finally reached that point in my life. The point where I realized I’m gonna be single for a while until I can find my equal. Ever since I’d become interested in boys and dating ,I settled. I may have not known it then, but any boy who called me cute or paid me any type of attention , had my heart. I didn’t care that they treated me like shit or they strung me along. As long as I had “someone”. Yes, I had super low self-esteem and was supper shy and had about a billion insecurities. I once wasted 10 years on a guy. Who was never my official boyfriend by the way. And never intended to be . But loved the girlfriend type things he got by being with me. Imagine the type of low worth man you have to be to string someone along for a decade when you know you’ll never commit to them. And Imagine how much I didn’t know my worth that I put up with it. He always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough for him, when truth is I was probably too good for him. I just didn’t know it. I’ve had more than enough of those type of relationships to last me a lifetime. Seriously, I’ve learned my lesson. My point being is I’ve settled for everything in my life

Jobs

Grades

Friends

Boys

I always accepted the bare minimum. Not until recently have I worked my butt off in every aspect of my life and stopped settling for the bare minimum. And guess what!? It’s cost me friends, and guys. But guess what I’ve gained? EVERYTHING I was supposed to become. I can no longer accpet the bare minimum and I don’t want too!! Those people were simply a distraction, keeping me from achieving my goals. So don’t settle! And if people fall off or leave…. Well LET THEM. They’re not meant to be in your life anyway. Does it absolutely suck being alone and single, especially during a pandemic!??? Yes!! , Trust me I know it does. But imagine the blessings that are about to enter your life for not settling. The best is yet to come and comes to those who are patient. We’re gonna make it, we won’t be alone forever.

Being Ambitious

If I’ve learned anything this year, it’s that when you’re overly ambitious people tend to either be scared of you or doubt you.

This is the busiest and most driven I’ve ever been and instead of being met with praise and positives, I feel like I’m being met with negativity and doubters. I feel people pulling away from me. I feel people rolling their eyes when I talk about my goals and ambitions. I don’t always get the same support I put out. I’ve noticed I’m the only one going hard for my brand. And you know what!?

That’s fine with me. I’ve got an insatiable hunger now that I’ve gotten a taste of what it means to be a boss and I honestly love it. I find myself no longer wanting to be around people who don’t have that same hunger . I now longer look at men who do the bare minimum and get excited about it. In my eyes if I’m doing xyz and beyond, so do you. I can’t sit at a table where there’s no talk of substance going on. I can’t even begin to think about dating you if you’re not matching my energy and being just as busy if not busier than me. What I want, I get but only because I’m willing to work my ass off for it. If you can’t keep up, I suggest you move to the side So I can get it done. I’m no longer waiting on anyone to get what I need done. I’m doing it by myself and for myself.