How Heteronormativity Ruined My Creativity.

By: Shanise Lachelle

Happy Monday Friends, and today we’re back with another Queer Post. Talking about how my experiences with heteronormativity ruined me in the biggest way. Make sure you’re subscribed and following for more content . And as always Thank you for all your support.

Ever since I was young , I was a very imaginative and creative being. I wrote a lot of stories, poems , and songs. I loved fashion and dressing differently. I LOVED music and films, and would completely devour any and all art content.

Over my adult life and especially during my 20s I’ve noticed a H U G E decline in my favorite hobbies and interests. And I found it so difficult to keep up with things that I used to find so soothing and easy to do. Yes adult life has become busy and hectic, but it’s always been busy . So why have I let my creativity die and be get lost along the way?!

I blame it in huge parts to me struggling with my sexuality and The Heteronormative collective. I spent a lot of my 20s wanting to be accepted by my straight peers and friends. And changing most of my thoughts and beliefs to match theirs. I didn’t realize in doing that I was essentially killing everything I was. I found it hard to keep liking things I liked because my likes were changing to meet theirs. I became less like me and more like them. With only tiny shreds of the real me left over but getting buried so deeply over time.

I don’t blame my friends for their ways or being straight. I know no one CHOOSES to be attracted to M*N. But I do blame myself for pushing myself to fit inside boxes that weren’t made for me at all. They were never comfortable and it always felt suffocating. And for that my creativity suffered.

It took me two years to finish my second book, when all the material was there. I have several short stories unfinished. And I’ve completely neglected my painting hobbies and my vlogging. My small business is temporarily closed and I don’t know when it will reopen. And I have such a burning desire to create and make new pieces but no urge to get up and just DO IT.

I do believe if I surrounded myself with more Of the lgbtq community and MORE Poc queer folks, I would have 1. Came out sooner and 2. Took my sexuality seriously and 3. My creativity would have BLOSSOMED.

It’s true when they say, the people you surround yourself with , will impact you in ways you would never believe.

Knowing what I know now, I’m learning to forgive myself and not be so angry and at how far I’ve fallen untrue to myself. I’m working my way back one step at a time. And I’m dedicating 2023 to getting back to myself and to surrounding myself with more POC queer folks. Even if that means I have to start some clubs or organizations myself!! It will be done and I will be comfortable and finally happy.

I just have to remember to take it one day at a time.

Dear younger me, I’m so sorry . But I will make it up to you immediately and fully.

I’m here and I’m Queer

By :Shanise Lachelle

Happy New year , and this year I’m all about stepping into my true identity and allowing my space to be open and safe for other POC queer folks! As a baby queer myself , I still have so much to learn and can’t wait to change the heteronormative agenda that’s been implanted in my head for all of my 31 years of existence!

It’s truly been a journey for as long as I can remember but especially since 2017 when I finally started questioning myself and what I actually wanted.

2019 I cut my hair off and “playfully” stared experimenting with different pronouns . I also started talking to a few different girls. But it wasn’t until 2022 that I had I my first lesbian situation-ship , that I knew I was actually a lesbian. And could never, go back to dating a M*N. Even though the situation was toxic and nearly put me in grippy socks, it confirmed everything in me that I had been wondering about for years secretly.

All the “ AM I GAY QUIZZES”, and secretly obsessing over Lesbian themed shows, and my ever growing disgust with the male gender, being the happiest during pride month, started to make so much more sense!

I had found myself and when I tell you a WEIGHT was lifted off my shoulders and I felt so free for the first time ever. I know the LGTBQIA was where I was supposed to be and felt the most ME.

My blog will still be 50% K-pop , but it will also be incorporating MORE queerness, and so much more. If that isn’t to your liking, kindly unfollow me now.

It’s only about to get GAYER from here=]

To my she’s, theys, and Gays, let’s do this!! And let’s embark on the safest and healthiest 2023 we can manage babes!!

Ditto vs Omg

By: Shanise Lachelle

Happy Friday and we’re back with another New Jeans post. Let’s get into it!

New Jeans have now released two hott new singles and it’s time to rank them in order of which one is my favorite!

1. Omg– from the flow and the way it switches into a different song for the chorus. To the super cute early 2000s outfits with the bunny hats. New Jeans has done it again!! And this may be my favorite song of theirs. Not to mention the video is super fun and let’s the girls get into a bit of acting.

2. Ditto– Also a super fun but interesting video with two different povs. The choreography is another memorable one and the girls look so happy and like they’re having the time of their lives when they perform it.

The girls and hybe have definitely knocked it out of the park this comeback!! I can’t wait to see what else they surprise us with.

Which New Jeans song is your favorite? Let me know in the comments down below and as always …. Until next time….

Yoongi What?

By: Shanise Lachelle

Happy First Thursday of 2023 Friends! Today I woke up bright and early and was snaked with these beautiful concept photos of Mr. Min Yoongi, and I think I speak for the whole of the fandom when I say we are left SPEECHLESS.

These stunning photos could very well be from his upcoming photo-book, ( each bts member has released a solo photo-book with different themes). Or for an upcoming solo music project. Either way these photos prove just how beautiful and versatile yoongi is.

Part of the Hyung line , yoongi is Not seen as the most attractive member , by Korean standards. But just looking at him and these photos I feel they should revises their standards. Maybe he’s not typical male beauty standard, but he’s certainly gorgeous. His soft features and pale skin makes him look every bit of an sweet animation character. Match that with his passion for music and fiery lyrics, what’s NOT to love about Yoongi?!?

I am in constant awe of yoongi and how much his confidence has grown over the years and even the two years since I’ve been into BTS.

I can’t WAIT to see what these are for and to get more pictures from this concept.

New Jeans OMG Reaction

By : Shanise Lachelle

New Jeans just keeps topping themselves! And this time it’s with Omg , the follow up single to super hit Ditto.

The super entertaining video where they’re all mental patients into where the choreography is super cool, laid back and flows into each other. The entire team behind New Jeans is doing everything right.

Every song of theirs thus far gets stuck in your head and gets trending on TikTok within minutes! and Omg might just be one of their best songs yet.

Omg follows the theme of Ditto, where the girls wants to know how their crush feels and how exciting it gets when they come around. And it’s just like “omg omg , I was hoping he would come through”. The song is age appropriate and the video is so fun!

From the aesthetics, the girls deadpan acting, breaking the fourth wall, and killing their choreography, Omg is sure to be the first Hit from a girl group in 2023!

If I had to bet my money on any group right now, it would be New Jeans. They’re are coming in hot for that number one spot. And I’m backing them all the way.

Have you seen Omg and Ditto yet? Which one is your favorite?

Let me know in the comment down below… and until next time friends….

Cheshire Album Favorites

By: Shanise Lachelle

Hi friends , I’ve finally listened to CHEsire and I’m ready to list my favorites in order . So let’s get into it, but before we do please make sure you’re following my blog and you’re subscribed! That way you can be up to date with every new post and news coming your way in 2023!!

1. Snowy- she is TOP TIER!

2. Freaky- may be one of my favorite Itzy songs ever to exist!

3. Cheshire- much love for our title track! She did what needed to be done!

4. Boys like you- as someone who grew up on Disney music, this is not bad. And the more you listen to it the more you love it. The video makes it 100x better of course!

What’s your Cheshire favorites? Let me know down below.

And as always until next time friends….

By : Shanise Lachelle

It’s been a while, but we’re finally back with another STUCK IN MY HEAD. Here’s the songs that have been stuck in my head non stop and I can’t get enough of them.

1. Sabrina Carpenter- Nonsense .

2. Pink Pantheress- Boys a liar

3. Ice Spice- Name of Love

4. Ice Spice- No Clarity

5. RM- Lonely

6. New Jeans -Ditto

What have you been listening to these last few months of 2022? Let me know in the comments down below!

And as always until next time….

Movies I’ve Watched Recently

By : Shanise Lachelle

Happy last Wednesday of 2022!! We’re back with another Movie post. Here’s all the recent movies I’ve watched this month! Some better than others, all equally entertaining. Let’s get into it…

What have you watched recently?! I’m still waiting to see Wakanda Forever and Avatar! Let me know your thoughts on the films I’ve watched recently and also let me know what you have been watching down in the comments down below…..

And as always until next time friends…..

Boys Like You Review

By: Shanise Lachelle

Boys Like You is Itzys first English single and the fans are divided, let’s get into it.

Boys Like You was released fresh off their American Tour and it was met with mixed reactions. In my humble opinion, the song was cute and very Americanized. It gave Disney/Taylor swift vibes, which I’m sure which is what JYP was going for. The girls look cute and sound good of course, and the song works. Is it my favorite song of theirs?! Absolutely not. But I get the purpose of it, to generate American buzz for them ahead of their tour! and it definitely worked and had all the American media talking about them.

The girls definitely killed it and worked with what they were given, and the song is a sassy I hate boys anthem. Which we the people love, it just was a little cheesy. But Boys like you definitely works. And she’s slays , just not as hard as her counterparts.

What did you think of Boys Like You? Let me know in the comments down below. And as always… until next time friends…

Cheshire Review

By : Shanise Lachelle

We’re back with another Itzy post! Fresh off sneakers and that being a sleeper hit that divided the fandom, we’re back with yet another comeback! Let’s get into it….

Itzy has one hell of a year, with comeback after comeback! And all of them have been so different and so amazing. From Sneakers to Boys Like you. The girls have given us enough music and content to technically take a year break.

Cheshire is so wicked and so much fun. It’s super sleek but still with their typical girl crush concept. The chorus is super catchy- LA LA LALA WHY SO SERIOUS?! Yejis vocals really standing out in Cheshire. But all of the girls looking and sounding better than ever. The song is a definite trip and reminds you off Alice in wonderland. It’s definitely the complete opposite of SNEAKERS.

I do hope the girls get a break after this comeback, seeing as they just got off a world tour!! But one things for sure, they’re are killing it! And should be on everyone’s Ult list.

What did you think of Cheshire? Let me know in the comments down below. And always until next time friends…